DATING GUIDE
Plus size dating: confidence, compliments and first date ideas
Something to Hold Onto is for plus size adults and the people who are attracted to them. Bring your curves, your laugh and your wonderfully individual self. There is no need to shrink your personality to make room for a connection.
Let your interests do the introducing
A favourite film, a weekend hobby or your ideal dinner plan gives someone an easy opening. Body positive dating leaves room for your whole personality, not just your appearance. Ask a question you would genuinely enjoy hearing the answer to.
Give a compliment that invites conversation
“Your smile made me stop scrolling. What was making you laugh?” can be warmer than a list of body comments. Attraction is welcome, but let the other person set the pace for more intimate flirting. Treat an admirer as an individual too, with interests and hopes of their own.
Choose a date you will both enjoy
A relaxed cafe, a comedy night or a wander around a public market can make a lovely beginning. Discuss practical preferences, including comfortable seating and how long you want to stay, without making assumptions about someone’s mobility or appetite. Pick something you can both look forward to.
Keep your standards, not someone else’s expectations
You can want kindness, chemistry and a relationship that fits your life. Being body positive does not mean feeling confident every minute, and you never owe a stranger a debate about your body. Move on from disrespect and give your time to people who make conversation feel good.
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